Maybe you just fail to portray drow in the way that the majority have agreed upon as lore friendly, or simply haven't managed to make a drow PC that fits the ideal.
not that i want to make this about me but since you are trying to put me down (after making myself vulnerable after admitting i have made a mistake) i would say:
i know how to play a Drow in a 'lore friendly way' - i was Matron of House Dabel'kith on Dalelands and been playing them in PnP since the 1980s
what i do have a problem with is the festering disease in online play where UNLESS YOU PLAY A DROW EXACTLY LlKE WE SAY YOU ARE DOlNG SOMETHlNG WRONG AND ARE LESS OF A GOOD ROLEPLAYER which shows itself in your statement
this is massively to do with the way that a lot of people seem to regard online play as some sort of competitive test in how well you can conform to some set rules - to my mind a very weird pursuit
to be honest its not just with Drow - this has often applied to elves as well for some reason but not so much for any other races - we have moody halflings, jolly orcs and cuddly dwarves
Drow and Elves are meant to be chaotic and ive always felt that chaotic races should have a HlGH variation in how they express themselves RATHER than conforming to a VERY NARROW RANGE OF BEHAVlOUR
WHY should i want to make a Drow PC - 'that fits the ideal'? i want to do THE EXACT OPPOSlTE - i want to make a Drow that is original and different but still drow -like
why exactly do you think roleplay MUST be about fitting to an ideal?