People complain about these snowflake concepts, like openly good Drow, not because they don't think they can exist; they complain about these concepts because, more often than not, they're executed (no pun intended) poorly. A lot of players that play these concepts have the mentality of, "eating their cake and having it too," instead of trying to RP a character in an interesting, dynamic, or unique way. It's about doing whatever they want (doing everything you want is highly overrated), and don't want to think about suspension of disbelief, or the integrity of the setting. In a RP server, i think is the priority for everyone, regardless of the character's involved. I rather Balin perish and be permaed killed if it meant suspending disbelief for my fellow players for even a minute rather than having Balin live forever if it meant that he was a complete and utter snowflake that made RP difficult instead of smooth seamlessly.
well here we come to the problem, you and Dirty Goblin ('Maybe you just fail to portray drow in the way that the majority have agreed upon as lore friendly, or simply haven't managed to make a drow PC that fits the ideal.') think you have a right to OOC complain about other people's roleplay according to your subjective opinion
i come to roleplay to have fun NOT to pass some EXAM set by YOU or anybody else ;)
THERE lS NO lDEAL DROW ;)